How To Gently Let A Nice Guy Down
There is no one way to turn a guy down when he asks you for date, or you feel that it is time to break up with him. If he’s a jerk, your solution is simple: Don’t mince words and make sure that he gets the message. However, when its time to let a truly nice guy down, there are some things to keep in mind.
Nice guys are really and truly treasures. They are rare beasts in this world and one day, someone will see them for who they are and want to hook up with them forever and ever. Unfortunately, when you aren’t that girl, the best thing that you can do is to be honest with him and not waste his time by stringing him along.
Deliver the message yourself. Whatever you do, don’t let the word spread through your social network before it gets to him. Be mature and let him be the first one to know. He’s nice and he deserves to be treated well.
Prepare your words before you meet up with him. If the chemistry isn’t there for you, let him know that while you enjoyed his company, you want to keep looking. You don’t have to go into great detail. After all, you have a right to keep your feelings private.
Once you’ve delivered your breakup news, don’t backtrack. Be very clear about your meaning and stick to your guns. Even if he makes you feel badly about your decision, don’t give in. It is in both of your best interests for you to remain firm.
There is no reason to deliver an insult with your rejection. Keep in mind that the reason that you want to be gentle with him is because he has always treated you right. That’s what nice guys do. Don’t slip in any insults to make yourself feel better about the conversation.
Don’t drag the conversation out. Get right to the point and have an exit strategy in place before you see him. You might want to have one of your friends nearby to help you in case the conversation doesn’t go well.
If this guy really is as nice as you think he is, there is a possibility that he might want to remain friends. You can ask him about this, but don’t be surprised if he wants some time to think about it. Respect his needs and abide by the answer that he gives you.